Have you ever seen how someone else is running their cake business, then convinced yourself the way you were doing it was not good enough?
Yeah. Me too.
Not so long ago, I saw another cake decorator (that I’ve admired and followed for a long time) post a beautiful picture of a table she had set up to do a wedding cake tasting.
And my heart sank. It was soooo beautiful. So classy and elegant. So fancy and … gosh, everything my tastings are not.
What I don’t have…
I don’t have a boutique cake shop with a beautiful seating area.
No fine china or silver. No crystal. No fresh flowers on the table. No beautiful placecards or perfect slices of cake.
I live in a very rural area in an old, boring house with 6 kids and enough clutter to… nevermind.
I meet my (potential) clients in a private geneology room at the local library in my tiny hometown.
I bring them cupcakes in boxes & frosting in disposable cups.
I make it even better with paper plates, plastic forks and bottled water.
Should I be doing more?
So in that moment, when I saw how beautiful this other person’a setup was… with her tiny little glasses of layered single serve cakes… I compared myself to her. And felt not enough.
I wondered if I should be doing more – stepping up my game – being more fancy.
I wondered if I was losing clients because of my lack of poshiness (is that a word?).
Maybe I should look into renting a space where I could do tastings and do them better.
Maybe I should bake whole cakes and slice them up pretty (and waste a whole bunch!) just so I could offer a better presentation.
The “what if’s?” and “maybe’s” were suddenly overwhelming.
I shared this sentiment with my friend and assistant and she immediately encouraged me and spoke truth into my life.
I am enough.
What I’m doing is just fine. What I am doing is good enough. How I run my business works for me and I should be proud of that.
I have deliberately cut back on my real-life cake business to focus on my family, homeschooling my kids, and blogging.
I choose to do a few cakes each month and blog. I earn a full-time income and I love what I do… both cakes and blogging!
The clients I have love me and are faithful. They refer people to me all the time.
My business is doing great – no more or less than I want or need.
There’s absolutely no good reason for me to compare myself to another cake decorator and feel inferior. I’m not inferior. I’m different. And that’s okay.
How I run my business is different. And that’s okay too.
And for the record… when I do my not-so-fancy tastings – even with the fanciest of clients – clients don’t seem to mind.
In fact, out of the dozens and dozens of tastings I’ve done over the years, I can only think of a handful who did not book with me – paper plates and all.
And only one of them was probably due to my lack of fancy. (PS – she was as bridezilla that I was praying would not call back! True story.)
My way of doing things works for me. And this other cake decorator? Her way works too. Is one better or worse? Who’s to say?!
My point in all of this is to tell you – do what works for you and own it. Be confident.
Don’t compare yourself to someone else and cause yourself undue stress.
“Comparison is the thief of joy.” ~ Theodore Roosevelt
Yes, yes it is.
And I’m not having anything steal my joy! You shouldn’t either!!
Always do your best. Keep learning. Keep growing. Be confident and do what works for you.
Wanna see how I do my not-so-fancy wedding cake tastings? Check out this post.
And as always…