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Family Pics, Ask me ANYTHING, Words Hurt, & Christmas Traditions

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Family Pics, Ask me ANYTHING, Words Hurt, & Christmas Traditions.  Is that a loaded title or WHAT?   I’ve had some downtime with minimal cakes for the last two weeks and while I still have a year’s worth of cakes I could post about, I’ve been focusing on other things.  Today – I thought I’d just share a little…

So first up… we had family pictures done about a month ago and I updated my 101 Things About Me post with this more recent picture!  If you’ve never read that post… it’s just trivial things about me (and it desperately needs a real updating), but it’s fun and (hopefully) interesting!  ;)

Friday night, on a whim, I had a little “Ask me anything” session over on Facebook.  I’m not sure what I was expecting, but it turned out to be quite successful and fun… at least for me!  I hope the readers who piped in enjoyed it as much as I did!

Like I said, it was really an impromptu thing… I was sitting on the couch on a Friday night with no cakes to do (GASP) and I was listening to this podcast about how to use Facebook (as a blogger) and well… I tried out one of his suggestions immediately :D

Anyway… if you’re curious about it, please hop on over to Facebook and read through the questions and all of my answers.  Is this something you’d be interested in me doing again?  Maybe next time I’ll plan a head and schedule it and announce it ahead and all that jazz so more of you can participate!

Does anybody say, “All that jazz” anymore?  Just me?  Oh well…

Anyway, if you’re interested in more than  just the cake stuff, I thought I’d tell you about a few other things that I have had going on over on my other website, RoseAtwater.com.

31 Days in the Life of...

For the month of October, I did a series called “31 Days in the Life of… a cake decorating, blogging, homeschooling wife & mommy“.  If you want more than just a peek into  my day-to-day stuff, you’ll find it ALL there.  I shared every single day of October about all the stuff… cakes, kids, troubles, and more!

Richy and Rose Then and Now

Speaking of troubles… a few weeks ago I got my feelings hurt big time.  Someone said something pretty rude and hurtful to me and well… Words Hurt.  I responded here.

Click here to read about our Christmas Traditions

And then, just to end things on a happy note, in my most recent post I shared a little about our Christmas traditions and shared some pictures of our most recent adventure… a trip to the ballet!   I’d love for you to hop over and catch up on my real-life stuff!

scales Thanksgiving

I pray that you have a wonderful Thanksgiving week!!  Happy Monday ya’ll!


Help me. I don’t know how to keep doing this.

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White Starfish Ruffles Wedding Cake

Well ya’ll, I just don’t know how to keep doing this.

I love cake.  I love cake decorating.  I absolutely love this business I’m in.  It’s a dream come true – I’ve said that before.  But as my business has grown, it’s also become burdensome.  Cake decorating is a very demanding, life-consuming business.

Today I realized that my very best friend, who lives in Italy, is coming to the States for 6 weeks this fall, and it’s quite possible I won’t get to spend any time with her.  She lives on another continent and I haven’t seen her in more than a year and I may miss this chance.

Why?  Because of cake.  You see, I’m completely booked up for all of September, October, and most of November.  The orders are such a huge blessing and it’s amazing and yet, it breaks my heart.

As I sat on the couch with tears in my eyes thinking about this today – trying to figure out a way to make it work – I received an email from a bride wanting to book her wedding cake. For Summer 2015.

I just shook my head and cried harder.  It’s my 7th cake request for 2015.  How can I know what I’ll be doing next year?  In January?  Or May?  Or July?  Or what I’ll want to be doing?   How does anyone plan out their life and their weekends months and months in advance??

I don’t blame the bride for wanting (needing) to plan her wedding well in advance – I know that’s just the way things need to be done.  But can I really spend my life this way?

What if our church plans another mission trip in June like they did last summer?  I will not want to miss it!

What if my kids get invited to camp and I want to chaperon?  Or there’s a conference I want to attend?  Or a concert or a party?   My poor kids have missed birthday parties they were invited to because I couldn’t get finished with cake orders in time to take them.  How sad it that?

Or maybe I just suddenly want a weekend to hang out with my family and watch movies instead of working in the kitchen all day long and into the wee hours of the morning Thursday, Friday and Saturday night?

Two years ago we missed our nephew’s graduation a few hours away because I had a wedding cake that weekend that had been booked months before we knew a graduation date.  There was simply no way to do the cake and make the drive to and from the graduation.  It was awful.

Over the past couple of years – that’s happened a lot.  I’ve missed out on more things than I can count because my calendar was already booked up weeks and months in advance.  Or I should say “we” missed out on things… because often my family misses things too.

How do I keep doing this?

I appreciate my customers.  More than I can ever say.  I’m so, SO very thankful for this business and the income and well… all of it.  I love it.  I know there are bakers and cake decorators who would give anything to have a growing or full-time cake business.   I don’t take it for granted.  Ever.

I’m overwhelmed and sometimes still in disbelief with how successful this little adventure has become.  My life is wonderful – I am blessed beyond measure with the opportunities I have – to work from home and homeschool my children and live out my dream of cake decorating.

I can’t emphasize enough that I love, love, love what I do!!

But.   Such a powerful little word.

But….  how do I balance that success with wanting to live and enjoy my personal life outside of cake?  As much as I love cake, I don’t want to look back on my life and have regrets .  I don’t want to look back and see that everybody had their cakes for their happy events, but I missed out on my own happy events because I was doing those cakes!

I’ve even managed to slack on my own kids birthday’s more than once because I was so caught up and busy doing other kids’ cakes.  That’s not how I want to remember my life.

My kids will be grown and gone in a blink and I don’t want to miss it all.

I don’t have a staff that I can pass my orders off to if I need or want to go somewhere one weekend.  My “staff” is me, my husband, and my kids.  Period.   If I commit to a cake – I do it.  I do it.   I’ve never canceled a cake order.  I’ve never backed out after making a commitment.  That’s just not how I’m wired.

It’s not just a matter of cutting back or taking less orders.  I’ve tried that before.  Yes, it relieves my stress.  Yes, I get more sleep.  And yes, I need to take a break again and get back to my realization of what I really want!

But it only takes one cake – even if I only do one per weekend – one cake can be too much (such as the one and only wedding cake I had on the weekend of my nephew’s graduation). That one cake caused me to miss a once in a lifetime event.  And I can’t get it back.

So help me please.  If you have a cake business (or any kind of business) that gets booked up weeks and months in advance, how do you do it?  How do you handle conflicts with things you want to do?  Or how do you plan that far ahead and still have a life?    Am I thinking too hard on this?  Is there a simple answer that I’m not seeing? 

PS.  If you’re not already subscribed to my blog, would you?  You can sign up here for my free email updates and then you’ll never miss a cake or dessert or long depressing post about my life (ahem!!).  

THIS is what I did this past week.

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I’ve done it again.  I got all wrapped up in a crazy-busy week and didn’t write a blog post for 6 days.  Ugh.  And guess what?  I won’t be really writing one today either.

Instead, I’m going to give you a very abbreviated run-down of the past few days.

Last week I did seven cakes, six dozen cupcakes, plus cake pops and dipped Oreos.  All pictured above, except my son’s Oreo Cake (and a couple of dozen plain cupcakes):

Caleb's 13th Birthday Cake

Caleb asked for a Lego cake with Oreo Cream filling for his 13th birthday and I did NOT want to disappoint.  He got *almost* as much filling has he did cake… and  he LOVED it!!

The other big thing… my nephew Rodney turned TWO!  His Monster’s cake from last year is here (I just posted it a few weeks ago and already a year has passed) and this year he had a Construction Party:

Rodney's Construction Party

I’ve mentioned before that my sister-in-law Amy and her mother ROCK party planning and those are just a few pics from his party!  She’s SO awesome!!

Paw Patrol Party Cake Cookies Oreos

And then, my most thrilling cake of the week… this Paw Patrol cake and sweets for Jamie.  He’s the little boy in our community who drowned a few weeks ago (I mentioned it on Facebook here) but thanks to his Daddy knowing CPR and some amazing medical staff and technology, and well, most importantly, the mercy of our Lord, he is alive and home got to celebrate his second birthday with his twin brother Harvey!

Praying for Jamie

He did suffer a brain injury from the accident and he has a long road of recovery ahead so please continue to pray for him and his family.   Having said that, I can say with certainty that I’ve never been more grateful for the privilege of making a cake!

Asher Nose

Okay… so after all that, Sunday my baby boy slipped and busted his nose and got a black eye… can you see how swollen his little nose is here?  It bled like crazy and eventually…

Asher Black Eye wm

…turned black around his right eye :-(  I don’t “do” blood, so it was more awful for me than him.  Just kidding.  Sort of.  Okay – that’s cruel, I know… but really?  Why do kids have to bleed SO much??   This Mommy can’t take it!!

And please excuse all the miscellaneous dirt on his face.  He’s a country boy through and through.

And yesterday was our first day back of homeschooling and it was, um, um, well… it was a Monday.  With 6 kids.  And they are not used to a routine.  Enough said.

Football game

But we did go see my nephew’s play 8th and 9th grade football, so that was fun!  We had burgers from the concession stand and I didn’t have to cook, so there’s that silver lining!

Then today I woke up to a very sick daughter and after getting her to the doctor and getting her on meds, I go out to find my truck locked and after getting a spare set of keys brought to me, I find my battery is dead.  I might have been a little on edge and I still had places to go, things to do.

Next, I also saw a new doctor today (a few minutes late thanks to my previously mentioned issues) – a cardiologist – who feels my heart condition (it’s not that serious – “condition” sounds ominous – it’s an arrhythmia) is probably exacerbated by my stress levels (WHAT?  Me?? StReSsEd???).   I’m starting a new medication and hoping that for the first time in months really, maybe my heart will act right.


Then I went to Walmart.  Need I say  more??    Wait… except… does anyone want to pitch in on my grocery bill?  Pretty please??

So there… this is my non blog post.    What have you been up to for the last week?